When Feeling Unsafe is Your "Safe Place"
And the Grind Is Your Guardrail
We share a universal experience as moms. Your kids could be yelling in the next room, and you barely flinch. All of a sudden it gets quiet…a little too quiet, and before you know it, you’re on your feet investigating.
Another universal experience we might share, is realizing that you might have been using the grind as your guardrail through life. You find yourself in an extended season where stress feels like purpose, busy-ness feel like momentum and exhaustion is proof you’re doing something meaningful.
Then all of a sudden, when things are quiet, peaceful even, your mind tries to manufacture urgency just to feel safe again.
Let’s all take one collective deep breath.
I for one, am so guilty of this. I think this is what Jesus meant when he said, “don’t worry about tomorrow, each day has enough trouble of its own.” We come to the end of our day, and find quiet, and our revving minds start to pull chaos from tomorrow. Instead of reminding ourselves to breathe. To embrace the quiet in gratitude. To stop long enough to settle into rest at the end of the day, so we’re equipped for what tomorrow brings.
If this is you, let me remind you like the big sister we all need:
1. You didn’t stumble into this season.
You built it. You said no where you needed to, stewarded what God gave you, showed up for your kids, made scary pivots, and walked through actual warfare. You’re in a sown life era, reaping from seeds you planted in faith.
2. Readiness isn’t only built in discomfort.
Sometimes, God prepares us in peace. You don’t need to panic your way into purpose. This might be the season where He strengthens your roots in hidden, unseen ways. Remember Elijah? God fed him by a brook and let him rest before the next assignment. What if this pause is the preparation?
3. Don’t confuse boredom with lack of calling.
If your schedule’s empty, it doesn’t mean you are. It means there's room again to listen. To create. To worship. To dream. To be present. (Not productive. Present.) And that’s a kind of strength you’ll need if God does call you into something new soon.
So instead of crawling out of your skin, what if you peeled back the pressure and got curious? Ask:
“God, what would You have me notice in this moment I was too busy to see before?”
Because, friend… maybe it’s not time to go back to “hustle mode.”
Maybe it’s time to learn how to receive.
Especially for those of us who have never learned it before.
For those of us that have felt like they’ve had to fight, and claw to get to the top of the mountain.
For those of us that have lived terrified of being joyful because you know what it’s like to be broken when the source of your joy is gone.
For those of us all too familiar with constantly running from the dogs of poverty nipping at your heels. (Poverty not just being money, whatever it is that has been your life’s insecurity.)
Maybe God is saying, “My darling, stop running. Rest. Trust. I’m here.”
I love you. You’re not broken. You’re just… free. And freedom takes practice. 💛
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